Appropriate Words for Someone After Loss

Posted on November 15th, 2021 by under Funeral Home
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If you or someone you know are looking at funeral homes in Royal Oak, MI, it can bring up emotions that you may not know how to work through after a loss. The event can take an enormous amount of energy, and if you’re trying to process feelings in grief, it can make the situation more complicated. If a loved one is struggling, you may not know what to say to them to help them, and some phrases like “you have my sympathy” can feel overused and inauthentic. So here are some other suggestions to offer comfort after a loved one passes away.

What do you Say? 

Grief can be a complicated process to navigate, and the individual may constantly be experiencing changes in their emotional states. Feelings like loneliness, regret, or even the five stages of loss can be part of the experience. The difficult task is allowing the person to be right where they are and not change anything, which will ultimately get them to a place of healing.

The individual may have thoughts or feelings such as “Is this normal to feel this way?” and question their experience. Therefore, it is imperative to find a way to help them begin processing their feelings to release their pain and move into healing.

It is always recommended to check with the individual before assuming anything about their experience. If they have conveyed that they are feeling lonely, here are some suggestions.

  • You can call me anytime.
  • Can I take you out to eat?
  • Would you like some company?

If the case is that their loved one has expressed needing emotional support, here are some additional suggestions.

  • Is there anything I can do for you?
  • You can take all the time you need.
  • I am here for you.
  • You are not grieving alone.

Things to Avoid Saying

  • You need to move on.
  • I’m sure they’re in a better place.
  • I know exactly how you feel.

Alternative Options 

In some cases, the grief might be so intense that the individual cannot complete simple daily tasks like cleaning or cooking, so offering support in these areas is helpful. We also recommend resourcing outside companies that can provide internal support for the individual. Food delivery or housekeeping can be welcomed items would a person is grieving. They also may simply need a hug or to know that you or with them offering your presence in their time of pain.

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From Our Family to Yours 

Learning to hold a loved one when they’re grieving can be a rewarding experience that can also help you in your healing process. If you are looking at funeral homes in Royal Oak, MI, and you need a locally trusted and community-minded company Wm. Sullivan & Son Funeral Directors is here to help. We offer compassionate and caring services that can include planning or funeral events. We understand how stressful planning a service can be, and we want to provide you with peace of mind through your process. Give us a call today, and we’ll help you get started with the details.

Michael Lope

Co-Owner, Funeral Director Michael J. Lope is a licensed funeral director and co-owner of the Wm. Sullivan & Son Funeral Home. Mike attended American Academy McAllister Institute for mortuary school in New York City. Mike was licensed in 2006 and began working with his family at Wm. Sullivan & Son Funeral Home. He currently works at both family funeral homes in Utica and Royal Oak. In his time off Michael enjoys golfing, skiing, hiking and camping. He is a parishioner at Holy Name Catholic Church with his wife Christine and his two children Andrew and Ashlyn. He and his family are committed to maintaining a family owned and operated funeral home that is a progressive and innovative leader in burial and cremation services.

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